Reconnect With Your Partner

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Reconnect With Your Partner

Navigating intimate relationships isn’t always easy. While arguments, busy schedules and personal commitments will inevitably impact our relationships, we need to prioritize reconnecting with our partner if we want our relationships to thrive.

To help you and your partner rekindle your intimacy and restore your emotional connection, we’ve created a list of things you can do and say to reestablish your bond with one another.

Questions to ask…

After an argument

“How can I better fulfill your needs?”
“What can I do to make you feel understood?”
“How would you prefer to solve our next fight/conflict?”
“How should I approach you the next time I’m upset with you?”
“How can I better support you going forward?”

If you feel distant

“What are some of your life’s goals/dreams right now?”
“How do you think we could have more fun together?”
“How do you feel about work right now?”
“What do you want our life to look in the next 5 years?”
“What’s something I don’t know about you yet?”

To nurture intimacy

“What is your biggest fear?”
“What do you love most about our relationship/being with me?”
“When do you feel the most loved by me?”
“What is your favourite childhood memory?”
“Who do you admire the most in the world and why?”

Things you can do:

Allocate one day a week to spending time together without distraction (limit screen time, be in the moment together, etc.)
Take walks/exercise together
Plan a formal date night
Eat your meals together (dinner every week night, lunch on the weekends, etc.)
Engage in multiple forms of physical affection (holding hands often, kissing more frequently/kissing for longer, tender/affectionate touches like a back rub or playing with their hair)
Prioritize sex and sexual intimacy
Appreciate one another (acknowledge what your partner does for you, around the house, for the kids, etc.)
Make time for conversation (a 30-minute conversation about your day, how you’re feeling lately, etc.)
Find a new hobby or experience to do/try together (painting, baking, volunteering, etc.)
Plan a vacation/weekend getaway

If you and your partner need more help to find a way back to a happy and fulfilling relationship, our Gray Matter Health team is fully equipped to assist you on that journey. We offer both pre-martial and marital counseling for couples that want to pursue lifelong happiness together, regardless of what stage in their relationship they’re at. If you’re ready to start a new chapter with your partner, click here to book a free consultation with us.

These questions and activities were informed/inspired by The Gottman Method, a revolutionary approach to couple’s psychology and couple’s therapy. Click here to learn more about The Gottman Method.

Find more important questions to ask your partner according to The Gottman Method:

75 Insightful Questions to Deepen Emotional Intimacy

10 Questions Happy Couples Are Constantly Asking One Another

By Shelbie Lyle, GMH Communications & PR Intern

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Marcy Gray

Psychotherapist and Diversity Expert

Marci Gray is the lead psychotherapist and CEO of Gray Matter Health. She is an experienced speaker and corporate trainer as well as consultant and author who specializes in mental health and anti-racism work which is the focus of her PhD research. READ MORE